Think You're Abused? - Los Angeles LGBT Center

• Know that you are not responsible for your partner's abusive behavior.
• You have the right to a safe and healthy relationship.
• Establish contacts with friends and family so you have a safe place to go.
• Consider obtaining a restraining order to aid in your protection. We can assist you.
• Talk to a counselor who is trained in LGBT domestic violence issues. Warning: couples counseling can potentially make your situation more dangerous!

Safety Planning

• Leaving an abusive relationship without a safety plan, support and information about your options is potentially dangerous and can put your life and well-being at risk.
• Keep a bag packed that is ready to go and easy to grab at a moment's notice in case you need to leave quickly.
• If an argument seems unavoidable, try to move to a room with easy access to an exit. Do not relocate to a bathroom, kitchen or any location where there are potential weapons.
• Keep emergency cash hidden where you can get to it quickly. Keep important papers with you or in your packed bag so you will have them when you leave.
• Devise a code word to use with your family, children, friends or neighbors to alert them if you need the police.
• If the situation is dangerous, use your best judgment to keep yourself safe. Call the police as soon as it is safe to do so.
• You have the right to obtain a restraining order. Keep the restraining order with you at all times. Leave extra copies at work, with a friend, in your car, etc.

• Identification: birth certificates, driver's license
• Money, ATM card, checkbook, credit card, cash
• House and car keys
• Photos of injuries your partner inflicted on you
• Legal papers: Copy of restraining order, medical records, paternity or custody papers, etc. Address book, important telephone numbers
• Work permits, green card, passport, etc.
• Children
• Pets
• Medications and other medical supplies